The -m option specifies the parent number. This is because a merge commit has more than one parent, and Git does not know automatically which parent was the mainline, and which parent was the branch you want to un-merge.
When you view a merge commit in the output of git log, you will see its parents listed on the line that begins with Merge:
commit 8f937c683929b08379097828c8a04350b9b8e183
Merge: 8989ee0 7c6b236
Author: Ben James <[email protected]>
Date: Wed Aug 17 22:49:41 2011 +0100
Merge branch 'gh-pages'